Overview of a hypnotic process


At the start of any session rapport must be maintained between the clients that the therapist this is the responsibility of the coach. The role of the coach is to not only create the rapport but then maintain the rapport by using his expertise and experience, helping the client feel comfortable in sharing what is most important to them. The first stages are to find what the problems are that the client is facing and the outcomes that they would like to create in their life. After gathering information and answering any questions that the client may have, the session may begin.


A typical hypnotic session will begin after this first phase. It starts with getting the client focusing their attention and some kind of suggestions for relaxation to put you at peace of mind. The suggestions at this point open the doorway to further deepening of the hypnotic process. Next the level of relaxation is deepened by using metaphors such as a descending elevator, counting backwards or down from 10 down to 1. And also suggestions that the client being is relaxed.


After the deepening of the hypnotic process the therapist may use a number of approaches. A typical approach for an inexperienced may be to use direct suggestions. Direct suggestions are usually simple and to the point. They are not complicated and do not require the subject to think or use imagination to any significant degree. They are the opposite of indirect suggestions in which imagery plays an integral part. The most appropriate suggestions are given and success is how well the therapist builds rapport with the clients subconscious using language the ticks the right box for their subconscious mind.


After the use of suggestions that the client wants, the client is brought back from the hypnotic trance by being told to awaken, it is at this point that post hypnotic suggestions could be given. This is where suggestions to no longer have the habit
or to modify behaviour are given.

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How can hypnosis help you?

Hypnosis can help you in many areas of your life by unleashing the full power of your mind. It can be used to help facilitate change emotionally, spiritually, mentally financially, physically, as well as helping you change habits, behaviours, patterns, and your perspective around things let go of the past or help you get the outcomes you want easier and faster.

You may also have some doubts about what hypnosis can do to you. Hypnosis is not harmful in any way it is completely natural state of mind that you take part in when driving a car, daydreaming, watching a movie or reading a book, however it is completely natural to have some reservations.

It is important that if you have any concerns regarding the process you share with your therapist as they will be able to put you at ease. It is vital that they put you at ease, if they are an expert at the process of helping people this is an easy process for them. If you do not feel comfortable with your coach or therapist, find another one. Regarding hypnosis there are many of the questions that could arise are born from seeing stage hypnosis.

Can you make me act like a chicken, Bark like a dog? The main meaning behind these words are can you be made to do something that is embarrassing, shocking, or irreversible? No, you will not do anything you do not think is acceptable. In other words you cannot be made to do anything that would violate your own values, or accepted patterns of behaviour.

One important factor to remember is that the trance state can be terminated at any point if you felt that it was not appropriate for you. If you were watching a movie and were totally engrossed in it, you would be enjoying a trance state which is similar to hypnosis, however if something was to happen on the television which contradicted your own most important values, you could in a moment, simply decide to switch the channel or terminate the programme, it is the same with hypnosis. If you were involved in a hypnotic session audio recording and the battery went, you would simply awaken when you realised that you were not being spoken to anymore, either that or you would drift into sleep before naturally waking up and returning to full consciousness.





What is hypnosis


Hypnosis is a state of consciousness that enables you to create empowering change and change your life. There are many misconceptions about what hypnosis is so I thought it may be useful to write some information on it.

If you were to imagine that there are two minds that make up the whole. The outer mind which is called the conscious mind and the inner mind which is commonly called the subconscious mind.

The conscious mind is the part of your brain that is analytical sequential and focuses in the given moment. The subconscious is the larger part that stores all the behaviours, patterns, behaviours values and beliefs of the person.

You will learn something like a handshake consciously, and then once you have learnt the behaviour you just do the behaviour without really having to do think about it. 

The same can be said for far more complicated behaviours such as driving a car you learn to do something consciously and then the meanings are locked away behind a barrier that is your consciousness.

The barrier to your subconscious is the rationalising and analytical interference that is your conscious mind, asking questions, generalising and checking, if we want to learn something, the easiest way is to be open to the information, hypnosis allows us to be more open to learning how to let go of our problems and install the new programs.

Hypnosis is a way of relaxing that barrier to enable us to be more open to positive change. You still hear all that is around you and you reactions are 100% under you will and command it is just that you are in a relaxed state.

This is similar to reading a book and being engrossed in it or watching a movie and being lost in it. Your subconscious continues to hear all that needs to be heard it is just that your mind is not subject to the same degree of rational conscious processing allowing your mind to be more open to the suggestions that are said. Once the altered state of consciousness is induced you will often be told stories, or a number of countdown techniques may be employed to help you relax. This process of relaxation is to enable the process of facilitating change easier and faster, by opening up those barriers to the inner wisdom of your mind. As  you are more relaxed the barriers to overanalyse or resist letting go of the problems is eased allowing you to let go of old problems patterns behaviours and create positive change.

It is vitally important to remember that this is a process and the transformation are based on the clarity of the coach understanding the problem, and using one of many cutting edge techniques to help you. Hypnosis is the doorway for transformation and is very powerful, but once you open the door, it is far more effective if an expert is guiding you through it and helping you to the other side. Hypnosis is process not a object, the level of skill of the therapist is crucial to the well formed outcome of the sessions.



Anxiety Help Me Understand What is Happening

Your subconscious mind is a powerful mind that is a meaning making machine, it stores a vast amount of knowledge. It helps you identify objects sounds and sensations at lightning speed.

When we are born we only have a couple of inbuilt responses, a fear of falling, a fear of sudden loud noises, and also a fear of abandonment. The rest of the responses to situation is learnt as you experience life.

As we learn more about things in life we make our own unique perception of things with  our meaning making machine (our brain) it makes generalisations so that we can make meanings faster when we see the stimuli, hear the stimuli, feel it smell it or taste it.

When the generalisations are helpful and empowering we seldom acknowledge them and just get on with our day. However when the brain is generalising in a way that doesn’t serve us positively a whole plethora of negative symptom’s can be created commonly called anxiety. How does this happen? The brain starts out with the mind needing quite a lot of information before it makes its generalisations, about situations or events.

As it learns more it may only need a small amount of information or a few clues and this can be enough for the subconscious to create a whole story and unique perception of the event.  It is then that you react to the story it has made. It may start to make huge meanings that don’t serve you and this is what is happening if you are experiencing anxiety.

It may start out that you are fearful of large groups when having to speak up, but before you know it, your brain makes a the same generalisation about a group meeting, normal meeting, and worse still it can start to fear the anticipatation of  the event. A simple email could trigger of the symptom’s even though consciously you know that this is not a real threatening situation.  The most important factor to realise that this is what your brain is currently doing is not fixed and you and your mind are the controller of it when you know what you are doing and you work with an expert, it is like being given the remote control back to your television. Yes when yoy havre the remote of your mind you can then decide the pictures and movies you want to run in your mind, and when you can decide you can decide on positive ones. The positive ones get you feeling more positive and you can decide to delete from the hard drive generalisations that create anxiety. Your mind can learn a new more positive way to be free. Pick up the phone and give us a call and allow me to share with you how you can change today.

How to Do NLP Parts Conflict The steps

"A part of me wants to eat cake and a part of me wants to go on a diet!"
"A part of me wants to drink less but when I go out I think sod it!"

Have you ever said something similar to this yourself? If you have you have had what is comonly called
in NLP parts conflict. This is when you feel like you are fighting with your self and are fragmented.

A happy life is more easily found when you are aligned for the things you truly want and your behaviours are working easily and effortlessly towards them. 

Internal conflicts occur when two or more "parts" of a person lead to behaviours which are contradictory. The most problematic conflicts occur when the opposing parts have negative judgments about each other.

The Parts integration technique comes from the modelling of Fritz Perls – Gestalt therapy and Virginia Satir – Family therapy. The following is a general overview of the basic NLP technique for integrating conflicting 'parts'.

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1.     Identify the conflict and identify the 'parts' in conflict.

Ask the subject to discuss the conflict as they see it, look and listen for the different parts in the conflict. It helps to see these as distinct arguments, e.g. a part which wants to express itself, versus a part which wants to control this.

2.     Find the purpose and positive intent of each part.

Can I talk to the part of (person’s name), who wants to e.g. ‘express itself’?


What do you do for (person’s name)? Acknowledge the positive intention, e.g. that it’s a good thing to want for (person’s name).

What would you like to be called? – e.g. ‘Expression’ – ensure it is stated in the positive, if not work to enable the part to state in the positive.


3.     Talk to each part to express its perceptions of the other


What do you think of the part of (person’s name) which wants to e.g. ‘control‘?


Understand the issues the part has. Work to help the part get the issues out so that they can be dealt with.


Carry out steps 2 and 3 for each part.


4.     Make sure that each part recognises and accepts the positive intent of the other.


Ask each part, “Did you hear what the ‘Expression’ part does for (person’s name)?”


Get the parts views on the positive intent and help them to recognise it. If necessary look for collaboration and joint intent for (person’s name).


Use chunking up questions to get to a mutually collaborative place, e.g. “So if you have that (positive intent already stated by the part), what would that do for (person’s name)?”


At this step it is sometimes useful to re-engage with the person, by asking “could I speak with (persons name)?” to ask them to review what they have heard and consider if there is any other parts, or if there is a collaborative joint intent they could offer.


This could then be offered to the parts for discussion.


Establish a common goal, e.g. to keep (person’s name) safe.

5.     Identify the resources and capabilities that each part has that would be helpful to the other part in order to accomplish its’ own positive intention and the common goal.

Look for ways in which the parts could collaborate


Ask each part - What would they like to happen differently? How could the conflict be resolved?


Offer the suggestions between the parts, using the parts language and checking to ensure movement.  It is necessary at this stage to move between each part and keep rapport.


Ask the part what they heard, What they think about what they heard ?, filling in anything which they may not have heard which could be useful – sometimes they will have listen to all that is said, sometimes not a word.


If the part is holding anything which they heard as negative, or taken a slightly different perspective help them to find a way to make it work for them, or suggest alternatives. What would make this work for you? What other suggestions do you have?


Move between the parts, working towards a mutual solution for the conflict, working on the details of – How they will work together?  What will each part bring and how they can get the best from each other towards the common goal.

6.     Gain Agreement

Once you have reached a solution between the parts, gain the agreement of each part to the solution.


Get the part to describe the solution and you summarise and gain agreement.


Carry this out for each part.




7.     Check Ecology

Ensure that there are no other parts which would want to input/comment on the solution.  If there are other parts, discuss with the parts their input and as necessary work with the existing parts to bring the new part into the solution, re-gaining the agreement of all parts.

8.     Physical Parts Integration (Optional, if appropriate / ecological to do so)

At this stage you could, if there were only two parts, bring them together and integrate back into self.

9.     Future Pace (Optional)

Imagine what it is like to go into both your past and future, taking this integration with you and experiencing how it positively influences the events.


10.  Check with Subject to ensure movement on the conflict

Ask the subject, How is that for you now?


Is there anything else that would be helpful to the situation?


You are checking for movement (which you should have already witnessed in the above steps) and to ensure that there is nothing else left in the background.


You can also at this stage embed some commands, suggesting that over the coming days and weeks the parts will be thinking about and working on their agreed solutions.

11.  End Rapportfully!



How To Do NLP Parts Conflict The Steps